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Out & About
Pictured with Lim Kok Kwang, PhD (Clinical
Psychologist), President, Singapore Psychological Society and
clinical advisor and consultant psychologist at the Shan
You Counselling Centre, Singapore. Dr Lim is a strong
proponent of the link between mind-body health relationships -
Psycho-Neuro Immunology (PNI)
Let me ask you a question...What percentage of
patients' visits to physicians are related to stress and other
mind/body interactions? Have a guess. Cummings and
VandenBos, 1981 found that the figure is between 60 to 90
percent!
Current pharmaceutical and surgical approaches cannot
adequately treat stress-related illness. Mind/body
approaches, particularly those using the relaxation response
and the beliefs of patients, have been demonstrated to
successfully treat stress-related disorders.
So what's this say about us being able to have better
stress coping skills? Well, if you don't have good stress
coping skills, you're into a lot of trouble. But on the other
hand, if you have strategies and practices that relieve your
stress, then your immune system is strengthened rather than
weakened.
Studies have proven conclusively, that when your stress
levels remain high enough, there is more than a fair
chance that your immune system is depressed and lowered. This
means that your resistance to illness and disease is
heightened. Severe stress can cause many dis-eases such as
painful headaches, bad tempers, body aches and pains,
lethargy, a feeling of apathy (boh chap!), peptic and
duodenal ulcers and even very severe illnesses such as cancer.
Resolve from this day onwards that you will indulge
in compulsory stress relieving activities such as:
- deep breathing
- taking short breaks from work
- regular exercise
- keeping to a healthy diet
- include visualisation and relaxation
- listening to calming music to destress
- visiting the gym for a workout
- taking a jog or a brisk walk
- clearing the mind of "clutter"
- stopping excessive worrying
- taking appropriate action to resolve your problems
It all adds up to a better life...and a better
you...when you create a healthy mind/body balance.
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DYNAMICS OF PERSUASIVE PRESENTATIONS
Do you have any challenges whenever you present to
groups? Do you suffer from nerves and anxiety and often
end up with an unsatisfactory presentation? Do you wish that
your presentation had been more forceful, more persuasive,
and have more impact? And have better structure, and
smoother flow?
Would you want to dramatically improve on your
business presentation skills? Then come and attend my
intensive practice workshop in Dynamics of Persuasive
Presentations organised
by JobsDB. I promise you that these will be two days
that turns your life around!
You will leave at the end of the two days with great
strategy and techniques PLUS your presentations are
recorded on mini DVD for you to take home to review and
further hone your skills.
Next Public Workshop: 21-22 April, 2005
For the workshop outline click
on this link.
For more information please contact Joelle
Boon
To bring this workshop in-house, please contact
me.
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Taylor's article on why communication skills are so
important....
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Dear Reader,
Firstly, a very warm welcome to all the new subscribers
to Ricky's Review! I trust you will find topics and
articles of interest that will fuel and motivate you on your
way to personal, professional and financial success!
The highlight for me last month was visiting Strahan, a
tiny coastal village on the West Coast of Tasmania. There
I was delighted to have the pleasure of meeting, in my
opinion, two of the best tour guides that I've ever had the
opportunity to spend some time with - Richard
Davey and Katie-May Crane.
Also in this edition, I think it was Julian Low from
Singapore Airlines who asked me for a list of "Do's" and
"Don'ts" when speaking during training presentations. So
Julian you asked for it - simply click on the "More Quick
Links" on the bottom of the left hand column to read the
special tips I've written. Also, congratulations to all your
colleagues for doing a fabulous job in last month's session. I
look forward to seeing more of your colleagues join the future
sessions.
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What one thing makes all the difference in your
interaction with self and others? If you said "attitude",
you're right! Do read the super article by Wayne
Mansfield who produces The
Maverick Spirit Newsletter about the legendary golfer,
Jack Nicklaus on "Why
Great Attitude Makes a Difference".
You just can't have enough of this thing called
"attitude". I've always remembered the old saying,
"Attitude, not aptitude, determines your altitude." How
true. Make sure you serve up some positive attitude in your
interaction with other people.
Enjoy this month's newsletter!
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How
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Pictured with Katie-May Crane on board the World
Heritage Catamaran Cruiser at Strahan, Western Tasmania
Katie is a super example of a professional tour
guide. Why? Because she's able to establish a professional
presence. First, let's describe what professional presence is
all about. It's about how to increase your effectiveness with
people, present yourself professionally, self promote with
credibility, manage things competently, and handle social
situations with savvy.
She's a direct descendant from the original families on
Sarah Island who settled during the 1800's on the West Coast
of Tasmania. While I was on board the World Heritage
Cruiser, a AUD$2.8 million, 30m, sleek new catamaran
cruiser, she intervened and resolved an argument between two
parties of international visitors who had been bickering over
seating positions.
It looked like it was going to be an ugly and sorry
incident with different people arguing over whose seats
belonged to who. Katie intervened like oil in a gearbox, and
came up with a creative solution that left everybody happy and
satisfied. >From what looked like what was going to be a
serious complaint over 'rights', she was able to turn things
over for the better and left everybody happy and satisfied
after the incident.
What really impressed me was when I asked her what had
happened, and she replied, "Well, people do expect the
best when they visit us, and so they should get nothing but
the best!"
What was really surprising in the end was that the
tourists who had complained loudly and unhappily about the
service took the time and trouble to write down specific
accolades and a glowing account about how graciously she had
handled the situation to everyone's delight and saved many red
faces, and allowed all to have a happy holiday! Well done
Katie!
Let me ask you - how's your professional service
attitude when you're working with your clients? Do you
give of your very best service when you're serving others?
Remember to treat the person opposite you as not only a Very
Important Person (VIP) but as the Most Important Person
(MIP) in the world when you are communicating with them!
To do that, focus on them, smile, be sincere, be
there for them totally in the moment and creatively resolve
any problem or challenge for a win/win situation. The business
of work is a game. Like a game, it should be a pleasure to do
business with you!
Professional presence will help you to become more
successful, make more money, be more happy at work, and
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Ridding
Breathiness in Your Voice |
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Pictured with Richard Davey, actor, author, story
teller, historian and theatre director extraordinaire of The
Round Earth Company which produces the longest running play in
Tasmania, "
The Ship That Never Was".
Richard's got a commanding voice that's strong, fully
projected and comes over loud and clear. I'm a great
believer in that we all can enhance the sound of our voice and
thereby create a better 'presence' when we talk with other
people. It's important to realise that how you audibly present
yourself has a strong impact that can affect the perceptions
of your audience.
Our voice projection and the sound of our voice is
ultimately used more than any other variable to determine
how others will react to us. For example, if we're listening
to someone with a high-pitched nasal voice, we determine that
they are whining. We will automatically make this perception
on anyone else we encounter speaking with this same sound.
Some people speak with a 'breathy' voice. This means
that the people are keeping their vocal folds open too widely
and often not making complete closure with each cycle, thus
allowing excessive air to pass between the folds.
Air may be released before a word is said, during its
pronunciation and even after the word is said. The
addition of the extra air makes the words unclear and the
extra air diffuses sound. To stop this from happening, make
sure that less air is expelled when you are pronouncing your
words.
Try this exercise to rid your voice of breathiness and
use less air when you're speaking. Sit up straight. Take a
deep breath and cut back as much as possible on the amount of
air being exhaled both before and after the word is sounded.
Count from 1, 2, 3, 4... and upwards to as high a number
as you can in one breath. Count off at a fairly brisk
pace. The longer you can count and be economical with your
breath, the less breathy you are are.
Do this exercise several times during the day.
Stretch yourself and continue to see how far you can count up
to on one breath.
You will soon be rewarded with a 'tenser' voice that
will use much less air and allow you to pronounce each word
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On
Leadership |
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To sail the 7 seas of high adventure in personal,
professional and financial success, you must leave the safe
anchorage of the shoreline.
I'd like to leave you with something strong and powerful
to think about, and if you agree with the philosophy, to
take action on it from TODAY! It's from MY CREED by Dean
Alfange that was published in Denis
Waitley's Weekly E-zine:
"I do not choose to be a common man or woman. It is my
right to be uncommon, if I can. I seek opportunity, not
security. I do not wish to be a kept citizen, humbled and
dulled by having the state look after me. I want to take the
calculated risk, to dream and to build, to fail and succeed. I
will not trade freedom for beneficence, nor my dignity for a
handout.
I will never cower before any master, nor bend to any
bully or terrorist threat. It is my heritage to stand
erect, proud and unafraid, to think and act for myself, enjoy
the benefits of my creations and to face the world boldly, and
say, 'This I have done.'
These are strong words that will take courage and
perseverance to live out a life like this. And when you
do, you would have done it the way Frank Sinatra did in his
song..."And I did it my way!". Live your best life and lead
the field.
Make it a winning month!
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Do write to
me with any comments or feedback that you have.
See you next month!
Ricky |
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