Out & About
With my niece Celine and her husband Zaimi at
their wedding reception in Ipoh, Malaysia.
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Ahhh. Weddings. Don't you love attending them? I do. I
was the Master of Ceremonies at Celine and Zaimi's
wedding reception in Ipoh, Malaysia.
Celine and Zaimi has created a relationship between
them as wife and husband. This wonderful
relationship must now be nurtured and carefully
sustained and be allowed to grow over the many
years that they remain together to be happily married
ever.
I believe that Emotional
Intelligence (EQ) is a fundamental need to be learned
and practiced every day of living
together to ensure that there is a strong foundation
that can be continued for a long time after
the wonderful memories of the wedding day
happiness has passed.
I've run many workshops on the topic of EQ. Nowhere
is EQ more important than in the institution of
marriage.
Just getting along with each other is a challenge
enough. But in the not too many years ahead, there
will
the sound of the pitter patter of little feet...and it won't
be cats or mice...but of children! The addition
of children can put extra strain on a relationship that
doesn't have sound emotional roots.
If all it takes is a piece of paper (marriage certificate)
that certifies that man and woman can make and
raise children, I just don't think that's enough! Some
very switched on couples might attend 'parent school'.
Others may be lucky to stumble onto the right formula
for keeping together and raising a well adjusted and
loving family.
Alas, the above families are in the minority. Most
families find just keeping together and staying happily
married a monumental uphill task.
Daniel Goleman, the prolific author and expert on EQ
defines EQ as "The capacity for recognising
our own & others' feelings, for motivating ourselves,
and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in
relationships."
You can see why this statement by Goleman is really
important in marriage because it's a union of
two separate individuals, different people in every
respect and sense who have come together and will
spend the rest of their lives together.
I'd suggest working on just a few important things for
a start to keep the relationship healthy, for
example, to focus on being empathic, listening deeply
to one another, building rapport,
working together towards a common understanding
with each other - the
classic case of being "I'm OK - You're OK status."
I think that if you concentrate on just a few good
values, and apply them on a daily basis the rest will
look after themselves.
I think it's well worth doing it, don't you? So all the best,
Celine and Zaimi - may the two of you have a long and
happy marriage, with the sound of the pitter patter of
little feet to follow soon!
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STOP PRESS!!! STOP PRESS!!!
I have an exciting 1-day public workshop on
EQ In The
Office..How to Bring Out the Best in
Yourself
which is organised by LCI Executive
Seminars coming
up on 5 Oct, 2007. More
details can
be obtained by
clicking on this link. The last workshop
in July was filled to capacity, so if you're interested in
attending, please book early to ensure your seat!
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Dealing with Difficult People
Do you find handling difficult a challenge? Do
you have difficult clients/bosses/peers or even family
members who are difficult and make your life
miserable?
Don't miss my 18 October, 2007 workshop
on,
"Dealing with Difficult People".
I'm presenting this
workshop with the ever popular, inimitable Shirley Taylor!
For more
details
please click on this link.
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"Present Yourself Powerfully...How to be a
Creative, Confident Communicator" .
And last, but not least, I'm presenting two
workshops. The first one is on
25-26 Oct, 2007
and the second is on 29-30 Nov, 2007.
For
more details write to me.
