in this issue
Out
and About
POWERED UP! The "A" Team at AGFA ASEAN showing their power
in Persuasion Skills! I was priveleged to work with them.
They are a fabulous team and no wonder their Healthcare Division
is growing in leaps and bounds when they are all champion persuaders!
The Singapore Institute of Management (SIM) organised
an invigorating two days of "Think On Your Feet(R)" communication
skills programme conducted by Peter Fitzmaurice from Melbourne,
and me. This internationally recogised programme is fun to attend,
and most useful in practice when you are under pressure from
your audience to make effective replies.
If you haven't already booked to attend my one day public
programme on "Present To Win" on 30 July, 2004 organised
by JobsDB, please don't miss out! There's only a few days left
before applications close! For more information, please go to
Present To Win...the Seven Power Steps to a Persuasive Presentation
Workshop Details
Date: 30 July 2004
Time: 9:00 - 5:00pm
Fee: $298/- (include 5% GST)
(Lunch and Refreshments will be provided)
Venue: Grand Hyatt Singapore
10 Scotts Road
Enquires: For more information, please call Joelle at 6861 1000
or email us at events@jobsdb.com.sg
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I'm going to talk about self-esteem this month.
In all the things that we do, from work to home and to
our social environment, self-esteem matters take
priority in the way
in how you feel, and accept yourself as who you are.
I've noticed that many people, during the
course of doing presentations, usually
find standing and speaking in front of an audience quite
an unnerving experience. If you consider yourself to be
part of this
group, then I think that boosting up your self-esteem
will do wonders for you.
Have a read of the article in this newsletter - it
could just give you a few tips, and a bit more
confidence along the way to feeling
better the next time you stand up to present to others!
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Joy in your life
Are you as happy as you want to be right now?
Do you have moments of happiness every day of your
life?
The answer to those questions are very important,
because it has
been scientifically proven that if you are not happy
today you will not be happy tomorrow -- unless you
take steps to change
today.
Happiness is not something that comes to us.
It is
something we create now, today. Waiting for
something to change
in order to be happy is waiting to live your life. If you
have
only one life, month, week, or moment to live, let it be
a happy
one, a joyous expression of the gift of life.'
Those words were written by Pam Golden in
her
phenomenal book
'Choose the Happiness Habit.'
Why is your happiness so important?
That's an important question because making sure you
are happy and enjoying life can seem self-centered.
But the fact is that happy people have better
relationships, reach more of their
goals, are
better parents and leaders and are healthier. So taking
charge
of your own happiness is the greatest gift you can give
your
family, your co-workers and everyone around you.
When you are in good spirits, life becomes a
rewarding
adventure
instead of something to get through.
The good news is just like there have been great
advances in
technology over the past twenty years, there have
also been
great advances in learning what truly brings
happiness.
If you want to increase your happiness and get
more
out of life,
it is as simple as learning the proven habits and traits
of happy
people. Pam shows us how in 'Choose the Happiness
Habit.'
After reading it you'll know why it's been featured on
Oprah.
Do you still remember that song with the
words, "Don't
worry - Be Happy?" It could be useful to everynow
and
then to sing it to yourself!
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Self-esteem and yourself
Just imagine that you're about to give a talk to a
group of people and that you're afraid. Or you're
about to enter a party where you know only a few
people and you are feeling insecure or shy. You're
distressed by your anxiety and you try to fight it the
way most people do: by tensing your body, contracting
your breathing, and telling yourself, "Don't be afraid."
This strategy doesn't work. In fact, it makes you feel
worse. Your body is now sending signals of an
emergency alert, and you typically respond by "fighting"
your attitude still more ferociously, with tension, with
oxygen deprivation and perhaps even with anger and
self-reproach.
You are now at war with yourself, because you don't
know what else to do.
But if you use an alternative strategy, you
simply
breathe into it, accept it, and you tell yourself, "Boy,
am I afraid", and then you take a deep long
diaphragmatic breath. You concentrate on breathing
deeply and gently, and even though this is difficult for
you at first, and may remain difficult for some time; you
persevere, and you watch your fear, and become a
witness to it, without identifying with it, and without
allowing it to define you
You say to yourself, "If I'm afraid, I'm afraid - but
that's no reason for me to go unconscious". "Let
me continue to use my eyes, my ears, my senses, and
keep on presenting to the good people who have come
today to listen to me."
By accepting your fear completely, you may
find yourself released from the past and into the
present. Your fear may not always disappear, but you
will definitely be more relaxed and freer to act more
effectively.
Try this technique everytime you get up to speak in
front of a group. If you persevere with this, I can state
categorically that you'll soon be able to conquer your
fear and raise your self-esteem to Black Belt ranking!
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In closing...
Cheers! Have a great month ahead!
I hope you've enjoyed this month's issue. Write to me
with any comments or feedback you'd like to give.
See you next month!
Ricky
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